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Why are there so many of you out there? In a town like LA, there are millions of amazing fearless, fabulous and single women who are looking for someone of equal or greater value (pun intended). Why? Many reasons, but the topic of the day ~ arrogance.
Narcissism is a raging disease in LA. It affects many and is contagious.
The dictionary defines narcissism as: inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love;vanity.
One of the key components of narcissism is the presence or arrogance, commonly mistaken as confidence. Many of you are intelligent, accomplished over-achievers who did not belong in the small town in which you were raised. You felt different and better than your comrades. So you move to a town like LA, New York, Chicago, etc.. And here you are: accomplished, intelligent, fearless, fabulous and single.
Ask yourself: Are you confident or arrogant? Because arrogance is not the same as confidence. This is how they compare:
A person who is confident understands they have certain areas of strength. A person who is arrogant also believes that have certain areas of strength, but doesn’t acknowledge the presence or possibility of weakness.
Arrogance is underplayed by insecurity. An arrogant person tends to be arrogant to compensate for areas of weakness. A confident person accepts their weaknesses or faults, even though they may not like them. This acceptance enables the confident person to handle faults with grace.
An arrogant person tends to brag and can put others down in an attempt to be the best or come out the coolest. A confident person is above such antics. They recognize their strengths and weaknesses. A confident person does not need to make life a competition, so a confident person is often much easier to be around.
An arrogant person can be judgemental and difficult.
Even body language of an arrogant person differs from that of a confident person.
Arrogance is often associated with a swaggering walk and a posture that is overbearing. A confident person can adopt an open and easy posture that allows others to approach them. An arrogant person is often more aggressive and harder to approach.
Confidence vs arrogance involves truly two different characteristics. Arrogance accompanies a lack of confidence so that the arrogant person still feels weak underneath. But as previously discussed, acceptance is a confidence trait, and is the first step towards self improvement for the arrogant person. So wake up people!
“The unexamined life is not worth living,” Socrates